Your Are Not A Victim
It’s Not What Happens To You It’s How You React
There are some people who believe that everything that happens will dictate the way your life is, but this is a very bad way to live as it forces you to submit to the circumstances and the events in your life. The truth is that we are the only ones responsible for our lives. If something bad happens to you, only you have the choice to either dust yourself off and move forward, or become a victim and let those problems destroy your life. Your reaction to very event in your life is the key to what is going to happen next.
Your Choices Are Your Responsibility
Life is all about the choices we make. Circumstances and problems happen in everyone’s life, and while some people choose to rise above their circumstances and become successful in the process, most people choose to be victims. Do you recognize these telltale signs of a victim? Victims are looking for someone to blame.
As much as I hate to admit it, I have spent too much time looking for someone to blame for my problems. But what I need to do is accept responsibility for the choices I make and the consequences that come from those choices. Bad things will happen to us, but we have to accept that decisions we made were what put us in the wrong place at the wrong time. Circumstances beyond our control will confront us, but we still choose how we’re going to react to them. By accepting responsibility for everything in our lives, we take control of our lives
From the weather to the government; from their spouses, parents, and bosses to their bad hair days, victims always have something to complain about. But that’s usually where it stops. They complain, but they don’t do anything else. So here’s a suggestion all of us should try: Stop complaining and do something!When we want to change things in our lives, we have to stop giving our energy to things that don’t help, and complaining is at the top of the list of time and energy wasters. Complaining rarely, if ever, helps a situation. And even in those rare times when it does, there are other, more effective ways to change things.
Victims hold grudges against others
Because a victim spends his or her life looking for other people to blame, it becomes impossible for the victim to forgive anyone. Victims falsely believe that other people have ruined their lives and it is their divine right to hold a grudge.
As someone once said, refusing to forgive someone is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. We only hurt ourselves when we don’t forgive. And we don’t forgive people because we’re doing them a favor; we forgive them because it starts the healing process in us. No matter what other people do, we benefit when we forgive them.
A mark of a champion athlete is their ability to bounce back from adversity. The mark of a victim is to look for someone to blame, start complaining to everyone within hearing range, and to enjoy their failures for as long as possible. And, yes, I did say that they enjoy failing.
By definition, a victim has to be a failure. Someone who bounces back and becomes successful in spite of repeated failures and setbacks can’t possibly be a victim. The ability to bounce back comes from the belief that we have some control over our lives and we can make the best of every situation.
While it may be possible to be a “successful victim,” in other words a person who succeeds at being a victim, it’s not possible to be a victim that is successful. The main reason is that victims are waiting for someone else to fix their problems and no one is going to do that for them.
Because they have learned to be helpless, they don’t have clear dreams for their lives, they don’t believe their lives will ever get better, and they never take action. Those who become successful do have dreams, they do believe that they can make their lives better, and they take action.
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Hi my name is Kareem Maize and welcome to my personal blog. I am 26 year old musician and information technology professional with a passion for learning new aspects of life everyday. On my journey to express myself I began blogging to share my ideas with others. Now I intend to write fun, interesting, and engaging content for my viewers to help them grow spiritually, physically, and mentally . The concept of belief systems and the law of attraction peak my interest!!! I believe blogging about my personal experiences, beliefs, and ideas is the best way to achieve these goals!!!